Christmas NEVER Fails


Have you ever felt like your Christmas has failed?

Come on,…everyone has the tale of THE worst Christmas season ever!!!

For myself the Christmas season has always come from a different perspective, especially since my husband has always worked in retail, which is a sub-culture in of itself where holidays are concerned.

Funny story about when my older guys were very little and I was speaking to an acquaintance about not seeing my husband from mid October to mid February, and she sympathetically lamented, “Oh,…he must be in the military.”

“No,” I replied, “He’s in retail.” 

Thus sending out hearts and hugs to retail families,…it’s tough during the holiday season,…we know,…we’ve been there,…hugs,…hugs,…hugs!!!

Experiencing loss: loved ones, jobs, disappointments can add to Christmas stress. Grief is a subject in of itself,…my Daddy made a big deal of Christmas,…and I sure do miss him!!! Also money worries can be pressing when one can feel pressed to spend,…and spend,…and spend in a seeming never ending holiday cycle. Sickness doesn’t stop for the holidays, serious and otherwise,…we’ve all had that Christmas with the sniffles, or even worse holding a loved ones hands during a more serious doctor’s appointment.

Interpersonal relationships, especially familial, for you know everyone’s got those darling dears in their outlying family who seemingly love try everyone’s patience, should be proof enough we live in a fallen world!!!  If that doesn’t convince you,…just turn on the news,…no one seems to be getting along these days.

And then there is Autism.

Boy,…oh boy were those early Christmases tough to take. EVERYTHING was soooo confusing. Hello,…when a child is not excited about gifts and toys and sparking ornaments,…and joy,…joy,…joy,…where do you turn?

Not that there wasn’t joy,…it just took a while to recognize it.

You see the gift of Autism is that it pares down life to the bare essentials.

I love you.
You love me.
And what else is really important?

Did Christmas really HAVE to look like I thought it should look? Did traditions really matter? Did one really need a Christmas tree,…cookies,…caroling,…and even gifts to celebrate?

Guess what?

Christmas arrives December 25th,…presents or no presents,…joy or no joy,…laughter or tears,…grief or healing,…reconciliation or not,…you get the gist. No matter what Christmas comes,…the miracle,…the great joy,…and, “Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace, good will toward men.” – Luke 2:14

Peace on earth?

“The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:5-7

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” John 14:27

 “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” John 16:33

The world will alway try to steal your peace usually by setting you to live up to unreachable expectations. Think just about any Christmas commercial on television! Seriously what percentage of Christmas cookies made EVER look like those professionally perfect ones on Pinterest from the seemingly stay-at-home mom, who secretly has a degree in design? Not that our wonky ones don’t taste good,…but those unreachable expectations which we are bombarded with, especially on social media are always out there ready to embroider: FAIL, FAIL, FAIL,…onto your Christmas stocking.

The Good News,…the real meaning of Christmas NEVER fails.

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16


God is gracious,…so very gracious to the world,…and to us.

This is our eighth Christmas with our little guy. Therapy works, thus he’s come a long way from those very confusing Christmases where everything seems upside down. NEVER, EVER, EVER give up hope,…those Christmases taught us,…traditional traditions don’t make Christmas,…Christmas.
Hello, we ready knew that fact in our heads,…everyone does,…we’ve all seen the Grinch Stole Christmas a zillion times,…but for the first time we learned it in our hearts.

Autism can’t stop Christmas.
Nor sickness, or grief,…or disappointment,…the list goes on to infinity,..for NOTHING can stop the miracle of Jesus Christ’s birth. 

And that alone is cause enough to celebrate!


MERRY CHRISTMAS from our family to yours!

May you truly know the ‘peace of God that transcends all understanding’ – this Christmas season!!!












Holiday or Holy Day?


Feeling a little stressed by the holiday season upon us?

Plenty of us struggle through the Christmas holidays, be in life transitions, or loss of loved ones, or just relationships, family or otherwise, that are less than ideal. Everyone has people in their lives that are to be loved despite certain attributes. After all the Lord loves us despite our own attributes than are less than ideal.

“All have sinned and come short of the glory of God.” Romans 3:23

The World’s standards for holidays are much harder to reach with nothing less than perfection set for the gauge: perfect families, perfect Christmas trees, perfect meals, perfect cookies, perfect presents. Hello according to the Christmas commercials isn’t every woman entitled to a ‘perfect’ diamond delivered by the ‘perfect’ man during a ‘perfectly’ falling snow storm while the ‘perfect’ soundtrack beams from some unknown source. If one lives in a tropical climate, I guess the ‘perfect’ Christmas fantasy is out of reach unless one is allowed to substitute ‘sand’ for snow, but it doesn’t quite work does it?

Holiday dreams are alway incomplete. We’ve all made the wonky cookies that taste great, but resemble nothing recognizable. Melt downs have happened over the hill and dale to grandmother’s house. Diamonds aren’t a dime a dozen when one is on a budget and worried about gifts and paying the electric bill in the same thought. Not everyone is included in Christmas parties, or if you are there are those Christmases when there is more ‘drama’ at the party than eggnog.

Also the older you get,…there is someone always missing from the festivities, some living, some departed, and with our busy lives it can all get a little wearying – the cards, the cakes, the cookies, the over crowded schedule, or the schedule that isn’t over crowded, the presents: are they enough, good enough, did you forget anyone? It’s stressful,…by design,…I vow.

Hello, but we’re never, ever, ever, EVER,…going to satisfy the World’s holiday expectations. It’s impossible, again by design, I vow,…there is nothing that delights the ‘other side’ than those the Lord loves to be stressed and depressed for the holidays.

You know the word holiday is an Old English compounding of the words ‘holy’ and ‘day’ – holiday, thus Happy Holidays are really to be translated Happy Holy Days. Holy as in sacred, to be set apart for worship, and only the LORD is worthy of worship. Such celebrations are never incomplete.

“For God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” – Romans 5:8

Still sinners, not perfect people, but for sinners the babe was born in Bethlehem, the babe destined for Calvary, For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.  For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.” – John 3:16-17

It’s all about perspective,…isn’t it?

The World wants to drive you crazy during the holidays, but God wants to give you peace, the peace of God that transcends all understanding.

Seeing that we live in a fallen world, holiday craziness isn’t going anywhere anytime soon. Perfection is out of our reach, but perfect love is not: God’s love for us, and our love for others, “Above all love one another deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” 1 Peter 4:8 

Holidays aren’t about glitzy perfection,…they are Holy Days,…set aside to worship the birth of Jesus Christ,…the way, the truth and the life. 

From our family to yours,…Merry Christmas,…may God bless and keep you during this holiday season, and may these holidays,…be Holy Days for you and your family!

He Knows,…


Ever faced a difficult conversation?

Life’s tough at times, and NOBODY gets out of life. High or low everyone, sooner or later is going to face – challenges.

How do you face those challenges is the real question. For us, in regard to Apraxia and Autism we’ve learned it is best to be utterly delighted with what our little guy CAN do, then devastated over what he can’t do, yet.

Ah yet,…the most delightful little word in the world,…so full of promise!

We’re also so grateful that when challenges are properly weighed, there are more things our little guy can do,…then can’t.

Speech is still a biggie.

Communication challenges are not a joke. It takes serious therapy and concentrated effort to get motor processing processes processing. Apraxia, you must understand is a motor processing disorder. It’s also very rare among the general population, but not quite so rare among individuals on the spectrum. Apraxia, simply put, is the inability to be able to say whatever you want to say when you want to say it.

Imagine how frustrating,…one day you can say a certain word or phrase,…the next day, or even sometimes the next moment,…you can’t.

Not that our little guy let’s Apraxia slow him down,…much. No one is ever in doubt when he puts forth effort to communicate,…in his own matchless style. Trust me the only  person on the planet not concerned with his Apraxia diagnosis,.. is our son. To him, if there is a communication disconnect,…it is not coming from his end,…and he’ll work with you, in a very there-there manner,…until YOU understand.

But you know we’re never had the Apraxia conversation. It hasn’t seemed necessary,…as stated our little guy could seemingly care less,…as in one way or the other he gets his message across. It’s a unique form of conversation,…quite brilliant if one thinks of it, as our son uses whatever means he can to communicate,…be it script, sign language, repetition, prompting us, or even attempts at telepathy when he was very little and would put his forehead to ours as if to seep his thoughts through. Sign language has helped greatly, and of course the past six years of weekly speech therapy.

Six years?

Yep, every week with only a few weeks off for holidays and such, but even then we’re working on speech at home.

Last week was the first time our little guy questioned his speech appointment, and it wasn’t so much the appointment, but exactly what did his speech pathologist do.

“She helps you speak easier,” I answered,…and then I asked the question, I had never asked, “Is it hard for you to speak,…or easy.”

That little head tip to the side for a moment, the little brow furrowed, and then he looked up, and said, “Hard.”

Poignant moment for like two seconds, as I inwardly gasped, “He knows!” because our little guy totally shrugged it off as non-relevant. It’s hard for him to speak, so what, he also has hazel eyes, both are a part of him, and as I.I. would say, “Next.”

Perhaps it is Autism that gives our little guy such self-acceptance,…or perhaps, more likely it’s his faith.
Oh yes,…eight year olds have faith,…amazing faith.

He knows,…he is loved.
He knows,…he is accepted.
He knows,…God doesn’t make mistakes.
He knows,…God helps him with his challenges.
He knows,…he is awesome,…and guess what our little guy thinks,…YOU are awesome, too.

Trust me for someone with a speech disability our little guy is a GREAT communicator. I certainly look upon the challenges in my life with a different perspective. Life’s messy, no one gets out of it without challenges,…some obvious, some not so obvious,…and those challenges and how we face them, and help others face theirs is the real question.

Our little guy knows that God will never leave nor forsake him,…he also somehow knows with his amazing little faith that 2 Corinthians 12:9 – holds true, today, tomorrow, and forever more.

“My grace is sufficient for you,
for my power is made perfect in weakness.” 

Monotony Of Love


Been bored lately?
Or perhaps stuck at a repetitive task?

Have you ever priced educational materials?
Good night, but supplemental materials are through the roof expensive – $$$$ – especially when you are teaching a child who is a visual learner.

Of course, Mamas are seldom daunted by a needed task for their child,…even if it means clip and cut,…clip and cut,…clip and cut,…for hours.

Three guesses how I got the title for this week’s post!

Oh yeah, I was definitely thinking, “Little guy, but Mama loves you bunches, and bunches, and bunches,” as I worked on those phonic/grammar word cards. If you have ever cut a ream (that’s 500 sheets) of card stock paper into 2″x3″ rectangles,…then you know the task was a bit tedious.

But you know in the Love Chapter, 1st Corinthians 13, the very first attribute to love is patience.

“Love is patient.” 1 Corinthians 13:4

Have you ever thought about sunsets and sunrises? EVERY SINGLE DAY,…up comes the sun in glorious light,….and then at the end of the day,…down it goes in a glorious show without fail,…for what,…zillions of years now? Or tens of thousands? No one really knows, but it’s safe to say it’s been more sunrises and sunsets then we can count in a lifetime. And what about the water cycle? Hello,…it’s a continuous route to the ocean, and the second those water molecules hit the beach,…no vacation for them,…it’s right back to evaporation-city to form those clouds,…and drop right back down to the earth as rain, sleet, hail, or snow,…so there is a tiny variation from the monotony,…but no great odds they get to become crystalline snowflakes.

Speaking of snowflakes,…are you aware since the creation of the world,…there has NEVER been two snowflakes exactly the same? Shall we all say, “MIND BOGGLING!!!” or rather, “PRAISE THE LORD!!!” — as if the LORD doesn’t have anything else to do in the universe, but create absolutely, totally unique snowflakes every single time, day in, day out,…and it’s always snowing somewhere on this planet.

THAT’S PATIENCE! Or rather,…that’s love.

How loving patient is the LORD with us? How much does the LORD do for us,…day in, day out,…without us giving it a second thought?


When my little guy and I use the phonic/grammar cards I’ve been constructing I am pretty sure he’s not going to give the work put into the task,…a second thought, or even a one thought for that matter,…and that’s okay, I am not expecting him to. I love him, he’s my child,…to help him learn,…clip and cut,…clip and cut,…clip and cut,…it but a small price to pay.

How much more does the LORD love us?

“Love is patient,…love is kind.” – 1 Corinthians 13: 4

Could I possibly be as patient with myself as the LORD is? Or as kind? Guess what? We’re not perfect,…but the LORD loves us anyway.

Day in,…day out,…day in,…day out,…whether we acknowledge the wonders of God’s greatness,…and patience,…and kindness,…or not. That wondrous snow,…it falls on everyone, folks,…as does the needed rain,…and those glorious sunrises and sunsets,…they are FREE for one and all,…like salvation.

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” – John 3:16



Talk about monotony! Giving up heaven for earth,…to live and breathe,…hunger and thirst,…become tired,…day in,…day out,…for thirty-three years,…knowing the entire time your destiny,…the WORLD’S destiny,…was destined for that hill on Calvary.

The things you think about when you are sitting at a work table,…clip and cut,…clip and cut,…clip and cut,…kinda puts everything into perspective.

Have you ever read 1st Corinthians 13,…from the LORD’S point of view?

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-8

It’s raining somewhere in the world. Snowing,…too. I was asleep for the sunrise this morning, but I’ve no doubt it was spectacular,…the LORD never does anything halfway,…not a monotony task,…and certainly not love.

And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” – 1 Corinthians 13:13




Back To Our Regularly Scheduled Program,…

Here a pix of that gravity and air pressure science experiment!

Whew,…marketing duties are done for a while, it’s the toughest part of being an indie-author.  Writing a 130,000 word novel is a breeze, marketing said 130,000 word novel is the tough part, but I truly hope everyone who participated in the free promotion enjoys reading Becoming Portia – New Beginnings. 

Affinity For Food is slated for the next release,…it’s a short story collection,…a happy mishmash of food fiction where food is either the central plot or plays a pivotal role in the central plot such as Lasagna Legacy. It’s a fun way for an author to explore different genre’s from mystery to suspense to literary and slice of life.

Maxim’s Mermaid is a young adult novel, an allegory fantasy that explores grief and surviving loss from a young boy’s perspective,…and it will hopefully be released next year.

Becoming Portia – Present Reality is the second book in the Becoming Portia series, and it too will be out,…as quickly as this indie-author can get it completed.

Of course, Becoming Portia – New Beginnings is still available on Amazon,…ebook and paperback,…both reasonably priced for a very long novel, and if you can get this I actually cut 30,000 words from the original Becoming Portia story. Ouch! It was so hard to snip those great scenes, but publishing costs are a reality an indie-author has to face, and let’s get real,…no one is going to pay $25.00+ for an unknown author’s paperback, and all that ink and paper add up. Never fear for those scenes left on the cutting room floor, I’ll find a way to recycle them,…either into their own short stories,…or even a spin-off,…as I love writing spin-offs,…and the Becoming Portia series already has three spin off novels slated for future publication.

Oh,…let’s not forget my main task,…homeschooling my little guy,…along with all the therapies needed for Apraxia and Autism. It’s the work, I love most.

If you didn’t get in on this week’s free book promotion and are interested in future promotions or book releases the best odds are to follow this blog, or to find me social media. I post regularly on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook.

No joke about marketing not being my forte. YOU are not a click or an email,…you’re a person,…and in the end how I treat people is more important than how many books I sell. By the worlds standards this is not a great marketing strategy, but I am well aware I am ultimately to be judged by a ‘different’ standard,…a holy standard,…to love one another and be kind to one another. 

The best FREE deal in the world is available to all,…there is never a promotion that ends, and unlike most marketing deals there is no gimmick,…only unconditional love.

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.”  – John 3:16-17

For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – ” Ephesians 2:8

God bless!


Isn’t Free A Nice Price?

Okay,…we all know modern marketing is not my forte, but I am doing my best here to let folks know Becoming Portia – New Beginnings kindle ebook will be FREE,…November 26 – 27 2018. The paperback is also available for a reasonable price and would make a great gift for any reader interested in an inspirational tale with a diverse set of characters and plenty of unexpected twists and turns.

Thanks to those who took advantage of the free download yesterday,…hope you enjoy reading about Anne,…she’s something else!

Today is the last day for the free download,…price goes back to $5.99 for the ebook,…it’s a reasonable price for a very long novel. But hey,…today the ebook is free,…can’t beat free!


Becoming Portia – New Beginnings

BecomingPortiaNewBeginning copy



Thanks to Amazon’s KDP for allowing authors to offer this great deal to our readers.

Free is always a GREAT price!

Hi! Thanks for stopping by! Hope you had a great Thanksgiving and survived Black Friday Shopping. Chilly start to our Monday here,…a little cyber-shopping for us to get ahead on that Christmas list this Cyper-Monday, but mostly I’m gearing up for some phonics and an uber-cool science experiment with my little guy. Hint: we’re exploring gravity and air pressure,…something will be falling!

Later this week, between dental appointments and homeschooling, I’ll be posting a regular post, maybe about that science experiment, but for today I am giving a heads up on a great deal.

Free is always a great price, isn’t it?


BecomingPortiaNewBeginning copy

Becoming Portia – New Beginnings

Becoming Portia – New Beginnings kindle ebook will be FREE,…November 26 – 27 2018. The paperback is also available for a reasonable price and would make a great gift for any reader interested in an inspirational tale with a diverse set of characters and plenty of unexpected twists and turns.

Thanks to Amazon’s KDP for allowing authors to offer this great deal to our readers.