What Do You Need?


School has started for our little guy!
Second Grade!
Oh boy what a great opportunity for growth – academically – socially – spiritually – and of course – physically. Our little guy is a big guy for eight years old with the promise to become a powerfully built man. However as yet our youngest son is still a little boy with a roomful of toys.
Toys being the leverage by which therapy is accomplished. Not so much now,…our little guy is big enough to work for the reward of praise, but take a toddler,…exactly how do you motivate them to cooperate with speech therapy?
Aha! Know what you’re thinking, but sorry, lollipops don’t work with children with sensory issues. They are too icky-sticky!
Nix ice cream,…or rather read the previous post to get an insight on that.
Cookies? Nope.
Chips? Eh, eh.
Toys? Close, but let’s be specific,…it must be ultra-cool toys,…hitting all the sensory bells and whistles, which by the way doesn’t include licensed characters. Sorry Buzz and Woody,…you and Mickey can’t help with therapy,…’cause Autism is a puzzled and we don’t know why our little guy doesn’t take a shine to you.
Blessed serendipity! Wouldn’t you just know it, but our little guy has a yen for educational toys. Forget transformers, our little guy wants to know how to transform letters into words! Big words! Functional words. His latest, “Laminator.” (’cause Mama was laminating therapy stuff or school!)

Therapy toys are a very soft spot for special needs parents. We chase after them as if they were a philosopher’s stone able to transform the base metal of our children’s challenges into the gold of success. Needless to say,…most of our children have an avalanche of toys piled in their closets or toy chests.
From time to time these potential avalanche piles need to be culled.

Past couple days I’ve been working in our little guy’s room. Culling? Oh yes, and organizing the remains into manageable categories. Math, here. Vocabulary and grammar, there. Geography,…just about everywhere! Maps are our little guy’s ‘thing!” Oh, and plain ol’ toys like blocks, play food, generic people and animals, cars, and LEGOS,…have their place, too.
During the progress of all this cleaning and re-ordering our little guy only had one comment about the culling of toys, i.e. packing up stuff to donate to the local thrift store. Noting exactly what was missing from his toy horde, Isaac leveled a warning look – his gaze holding mine – so Mama would completely understand, as he said, “I need my books.”

Thankfully not a single book had been displaced. Mama already knew her little guy loved his books, but she didn’t know the depth of that love equated with ‘need.’
Isaac wants Legos. Let’s make no mistake about that, he wants lots and lots of Legos, but he doesn’t ‘need’ them. Nor did any other toy that Isaac wants rise to the level of ‘need.’ Only his books. Interesting, but then most of Isaac’s favorite books are non-fiction “how the world works” type books or atlases ‘where everything is in the world’ – or picture dictionaries ‘what everything is named.’ – Isaac’s books explain the world to him in a way his toys never could. Hence, his need.

What do you need?

Everyone has needs.

In 1943, Abraham Maslow proposed a psychology theory based on human motivation, i.e. needs. These needs were classified into six categories: Physiological, Safety, Social Belonging, Esteem, Self-actualization, and Self-transcendence.

“And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:19

All our needs? Yep, and desires, too.

“What a person desires is unfailing love.” – Proverbs 19:22

Unfailing love? Oh yes, shall we all say, “Calvary?” – the cross where Jesus died for our sins – if that’s not unfailing love – nothing is!

But what about those six psychological needs: Physiological, Safety, Social Belonging, Esteem, Self-actualization, Self-transcendence?

(1) Physiological?   

Those basic needs are addressed in Matthew 6: 25-33

25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?

28 “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30 If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? 31 So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

(2) Safety? This is a very important need in our modern age!

“The LORD is my rock, my fortress, and my savior; my God is my rock, in whom I find protection. He is my shield, the power that saves me, and my place of safety.” Psalm 18:2

(3) Social Belonging? Social media, anyone? Everyone wants to be liked, but social media can be more fickle than Twitter – follows/unfollow trends. So where is one to turn for a sense of belonging but the Lord, for even if you don’t have a family – you are a part of the family of God!

“Consequently, you are no longer foreigners and strangers, but fellow citizens with God’s people and also members of his household,” – Ephesians 2:19

“But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light.” – 1 Peter 2: 9

“See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!” 1 John 3:1

(4) Esteem? Where is your self-worth found? The world will call you worthless, but the Lord calls you ‘beloved.’ 

“You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you so that you might go and bear fruit—fruit that will last—and so that whatever you ask in my name the Father will give you.” – John 15:16

“I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.” – Jeremiah 31:3

“See, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands,” – Isaiah 49:16

(5) Self-actualization? Doesn’t this word seem like something you’d find on a test, but the teacher never covered the definition? But you don’t have to google it, it’s not difficult, in so many words, self-actualization actually means,…the need to be needed,…to accomplish your purpose in life. 

“…being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 1:6 

“The Lord will fulfill his purpose for me;
your steadfast love, O Lord, endures forever.” – Psalm 138:8

“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters,” Colossians 3:23

(6) Self-transcendence?

Ah, now this is a VERY interesting ‘secular’ theory, which basically means humans have a innate spiritual ‘need.’  Of course, ‘they’ in the secular world say a higher power, but there is no higher power than the LORD of Lords, KING of kings, and ALMIGHTY GOD, nor is there anything in the universe more altruistic than John 3:16-17:

“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.”

Humans,…that’s us,…we’re finite, and too often we confuse our ‘needs’ with our ‘wants’ – and fail to be grateful for the many mercies afforded to our modern lives. Hello, isn’t it a modern miracle I can type these words onto an electronic screen, which translates them into a binary code, which can be transported throughout the known world!!!!

Not to mention, I had breakfast this morning, more than one set of clothes to choose from, safety on the interstate taking my little guy to school, hello security guards at my son’s school, nice to know you are there in our modern age,…and so many other blessings. It’s mind-boggling. My son’s room over-flows with toys,…as in Psalm 23: ‘…my cup overflows.’  with toys we can share with others.

The books, stay.

My little guy ‘needs’ them,…and we want him to know his ‘needs’ are important to us, and important to God. 

Life seems so crazy in our modern world, but no matter what is going on in your life be assured God already knows your needs. 

“And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:19

God bless and keep you!










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